Absolutely. With a marriage sometime you have to dig all of the way down to the foundation and rebuild, and that takes leaning into the vows. But this is where the machine metaphor is so harmful. You can't regrow a machine. But you can cut back a tree and regrow branches and still get a very fruitful tree.
Do we think about marriage and family that way? She’s not working so I’ll remove her and put in a new partner.
But what do these loves and alternative conversations sound like when you are dealing with a conflict or something broken?
Absolutely. With a marriage sometime you have to dig all of the way down to the foundation and rebuild, and that takes leaning into the vows. But this is where the machine metaphor is so harmful. You can't regrow a machine. But you can cut back a tree and regrow branches and still get a very fruitful tree.